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the basis for a good relationship. Take that away, or introduce the suspicion that one of you is lying, and it is usually only a matter of time before the whole framework crumbles. Lie at your peril, and don't complain if your lies find you out.
There are countless ways to destroy a relationship but the 'big 5' are:
•	Always be right.
•	Always be critical.
•	Perfect the art of sarcasm.
•	Become defensive when challenged.
•	Lie.

Vary your routine
Routine is important. It gives a sense of order and comfort to our lives, even if we may think we have a set pattern to our day. Unfortunately it is also a source of stress for those who feel they are in a rut and need to break away. A problem arises when they think major changes are needed in order to do this, when in fact only a few minor alterations will make them feel much more liberated and relaxed. Good examples of how you can achieve this include:
Walking to work along a different route, even if this takes five minutes longer.
Wearing brightly coloured socks to work.
Spending your lunch hour in an art gallery, just looking.
Listening to a different radio station in your car.
Ignoring the ironing for once, and spending the time doing anything you want to as long as you enjoy it.
You do not need to think of doing this every day, but if a routine is challenged occasionally, you will have a sense that you are still in control of your day. Remember that these are little victories in your day, and you are doing something for yourself and no one else.
I used to look after Anne, a middle-aged woman who had spent the previous 20 years of her life governed by routine. School runs, family meals, housework and more housework meant she had little time for herself.Yet she had become resigned to this. One day I asked her if she would like to take part in a charity tennis match.
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