No one is immune from worry, but if problems seem to dominate your life then it is time to stop and take stock of your attitude. Remember another set of '3 Ps' here - think positive, perspective and proportion.
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Don't make mountains...
Some people seem to spend all their time saying life is terrible, and no one else could possibly have the problems they do. Apart from making others feel less sympathetic, they also run the risk of doing the following:
Getting the balance of their life out of proportion. If you believe something is ruining your life, the belief may become a reality.
Reducing their ability to deal with serious problems when they occur, because they spend so much mental energy trying to deal with imaginary ones.
Forgetting how to enjoy themselves. Some people are so used to thinking life is one long continuous problem, that they feel guilty if they enjoy something.
I knew someone who used to wait for life to slap him in the face, and who almost seemed affronted if it didn't. He never had a cold, it was always the worst case of flu; minor aches and pains were the start of crippling arthritis; and his tension headache was a brain tumour. His hypochondria was something he had learned over years. Yet when his mother became terminally ill he was cured almost overnight. His mother's illness gave him a sense of perspective, and made him think about his minor ailments in a new light. He accepted them for what they were - insignificant compared with the greater problems he encountered.
If you always imagine the worst, practise the following tips:

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Accept that you have a problem, even if you cannot stop yourself immediately from worrying.
Start each day with a positive affirmation, but be realistic. For example: 'I may have problems today, but I am bigger than they are and can solve them.'
If a problem seems to be getting out of hand, remember the 'bobsleigh' technique (see Tip 79).
Ask friends and family to tell you when you are worrying inappropriately. Act on what they say.
If a problem still seems insurmountable, •write it down and state why you feel you can't cope. This should show you whether it deserves serious attention, or whether it is a minor nuisance that you have allowed to get out of hand.
Don't make mountains out of molehills. Ask yourself if things are really as bad as they seem, and try to get things back into proportion. If you tend to turn everything into a crisis, develop positive mantras or affirmations to use every day.

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