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be occasions when a project should not be judged purely by your contribution to it. This is especially relevant if a team is involved.
In the case of the spa manager, time spent talking to him highlighted all of these points. He had not made a genuine attempt to deal with the problem because he was afraid of confrontation. He felt he could not ask his wife for advice because he thought he would lose her respect, and he believed — falsely — that other senior members of staff would not support him if he asked for help. The underlying problem itself was not that difficult to sort out, and he finally called in a management consultancy to do the necessary hiring and firing he was so anxious about. He does at least recognize he has a managerial weakness here, but instead of pretending it does not exist, he now thinks about this area regularly and asks for advice if he feels unsure of himself. His business has gone from strength to strength, as has his mental health.
Exercise your mind as well as your body. Look at the areas in your life you are unhappy with and plan a step-by-step approach to dealing with them. Think of one area each day — and constantly assess how you are doing.

Lose your watch
Retirement may appear to have nothing to do with wearing watches, but this was not the view of an irate foreman who had recently retired. He came to see me complaining bitterly about, among other things, his retirement gift - a watch. For the previous 30 years his job had involved checking times of shifts, lengths of tea breaks and speed of production. He had spent much of his day looking at the clock or thinking about time, and he was given a watch to celebrate his retirement. The irony had been lost on his employers, but not on him, and although he appreciated the thought it was certain he would never take the watch out of its box. All he wanted to do was have days where he simply did what he wanted, when he wanted, without checking the time.
We are not allowed such luxury in our working lives - just about everyone knows their doctor has an average of seven minutes to cure them before the next patient - but we are able to let time stop ruling us sometimes. To achieve this, spend a day not wearing your watch. This will probably highlight the following:
How awkward you feel not knowing what time it is, which may develop into anxiety at times.
How after a while you will feel more relaxed at not having to follow schedules.
How much of your life is spent chasing the clock.

Of course you will not be able to do this on a busy working day. Choose a day at the weekend when you have no appointments or important engagements. If you have to meet friends or take your

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