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It does not. matter which of the methods you prefer as long as you use one. Before long it will become second nature and you will have prevented stress from building up as it used to.
Keep clothes you wear to work and those you "wear at home separate. Completely change when you get home, and imagine you are taking off your work problems when you remove your work clothes.Your casual clothes mean exactly that — you are home and cannot be touched.
Choose a personal mantra or saying that you repeat to yourself whenever you leave work. This is known only to you, and in saying it you shut the work door behind you.You can choose to say a different one when you enter work. Think of these as private passwords that allow you into work with all the stresses you will encounter there, but which also shut them behind you again when you leave.
Before you leave work, take a piece of paper, crumple it into a ball and throw it into a waste bin. That ball is the day's stress, and throwing it away closes the day.

Live in the present
Many people have three lots of stress. They worry about what has happened to them in the past, fret about what is happening to them at the moment and are anxious about what might happen in the future. Deal with this by using 'three-time thinking':
The past: the one thing to use the past for is to learn from. Missed opportunities may only come back if you learn why you missed them and look for them in the future. Avoid saying 'if only'; this means you are looking back - the wrong way to look.
The present: this is happening, this is where your stress is, and this is where you can do something about it. Concentrate on how you feel now, and act accordingly.
The future: the only way we can influence our future stress is by our actions in the present. Make plans by all means, but do not spend your life waiting for a time when your happiness is guaran-teed.You may have a long wait. And avoid saying 'what if — it might never happen.

If you are a dumping ground for other people's problems, learn to flush away their stress after you have talked to them. This can be done with anything from affirmations (see Tip 18) to a long hot bath. Help other people with their problems by all means, but not at the expense of exploding stress levels.

There is nothing we can do about the past, no matter how much we would like to. And the only way we can influence the future is by our present actions. Avoid phrases such as 'if only' and 'what if. Don't yearn for what might have been; it didn't happen and never will. And don't live on the promise, or under the shadow, of an imagined future. Be here now.

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